How to Support a Struggling Friend
You don't need to be an expert to make a difference. Here's a simple, step-by-step way to show up for someone you care about.
Learn the Signs
Withdrawal, mood changes, changes in sleep or appetite, and losing interest in things they used to enjoy can be early signs that a friend is struggling.
Pick the Right Moment
Find a private, calm setting and a time when neither of you is rushed, so your friend feels safe enough to open up.
Start the Conversation
Ask directly and gently, like "I've noticed you haven't seemed like yourself lately. How are you really doing?"
Listen Without Judgment
Let them talk without interrupting or trying to fix it right away. Being heard matters more than having the perfect response.
Show You Care
Use statements like "I care about you and I'm here for you" instead of giving unsolicited advice or minimizing what they're feeling.
Encourage Professional Support
Gently suggest talking to a counselor, therapist, or trusted adult, and offer to help them find resources, like the ones on our Other Organizations page.
Stay Connected
Follow up in the days and weeks after your conversation. Consistent support shows your friend they're not alone.
In a Crisis?
If your friend is in immediate danger, don't wait. Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) right away, or call 911.